joey322 asked:


i want to start out by saying that my husband and i have a really great marriage. we love each other, we are committed to each other. things are good.
i am just experiencing a little speed bump and i’m not sure how to communicate to him what i need…..

without getting into too much detail, here’s the situation.

there are times when things will weigh me down and i’ll get upset. then, i try to tell him how i’m feeling, but instead of being receptive and caring, he’ll try to make jokes and make light of the situation.
i realize it’s a mechanism he uses b/c me being upset makes him uncomfortable and he doesn’t know how to deal with it….
however, understanding that doesn’t erase the fact that it stings when he does this….kind of makes me feel like he doesn’t care when i get upset.

anyone ever have to overcome this with their spouse? how did you get them to turn off the humor and turn on the empathy?
p.s.

dont’ get me wrong…i LOVE my husband’s sense of humor. we have a LOT of fun and laughter in our house. it’s not a bad thing at all…..i just need him to “turn it off” sometimes.

thanks everyone….in advance:)

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