Since the beginning of time it seems that men and women have had their difference in perspective and perception. The idea that men are from Mars and women are from Venus is not at all a new concept. And it seems that no matter how hard anyone tries, men can’t seem to help but annoy, enrage, anger, upset, or piss off their women. As the saying goes, “Hell hath no fury like that of a woman scorned.” So if you have recently made your wife, fianc, or girlfriend mad, the following are some actions you should take to get yourself out of the dog house!

1. Send Her Flowers. Flowers are not a quick fix but they are a great place to begin working your way back to the front door of your lady’s heart. This trick works especially well if she is not speaking to you at the moment. Send her a beautiful arrangement of flowers to her job with a note that expresses your sincerest apologies. Not only will the note thrill her, but the public display will make her the envy of all of her co-workers which will make her extremely happy.

2. Give Her Jewelry. Marilyn Monroe said it best in the movie Gentlemen Prefer Blondes: “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. Surprise your lady with a beautiful necklace, bracelet, ring, or pair of earrings. Don’t bother with fake if you can’t afford real though. Also, don’t expect your major purchase to end the argument. You are still going to have to talk about the underlying issue and work to resolve it.

3. Cater To Her For A Day. Women spend a lot of time caring for and pampering the men in their lives so reciprocate her actions. Make her feel warm and special and loved and appreciated. Run her bath water with rose petals and bubbles in it, be her personal masseuse, comb her hair if she will let you. Let her know that she means something to you and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to mend the relationship.

4. Surprise Her With A Vacation. Make airplane and hotel reservations to an exotic location. Make sure that your lady has the weekend completely cleared before you make your reservations. Have her mother or sister pack her luggage for a weekend and give it to you. Then pick her up after work on a Friday, blindfold her and drive her to the airport. When you get there put ear plugs in her ears so she can’t hear where you are going. Once you are on the plane, allow her to take off her blindfold. Once you arrive at your destination, allow her to take off her ear plugs. She will be completely surprised and ready to let you back into her heart.

5. Get Her Something She Has Always Wanted. Do or buy something for your woman that she has always wanted. No one can tell you what this is. If you pay attention to what she says, you will surely be able to figure it out. No matter what you do, remember that relationships take lots of talking and communicating and compromise and that no gift is going to solve your issues.

Sheila Dollarsby and her husband do their fair share of arguing. When he is really sorry though he will usually order an arrangement of flowers from 1800 Flowers. He does not use the flowers from 1800 Flowers as a way to solve problems, but simply as a way to apologize and open the door to healthy communication and conflict resolution.

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I’ve now started wondering how much importance I should give to my pride when a false sense of it can put even a precious relationship into jeopardy. I began to seriously think about it after I angrily fought with one of my closest friends over an issue which, now I realize, was of no importance at all.

It was just the feeling that “I’m right” that drove me to that bitter encounter. In a sense, it was good that the fight happened, because it led to my self-introspection. When I sat to think coolly about the fight, the anger that accompanied it and so on, I realized how such emotional outbursts can only damage us.

And how bitter we become while arguing that it becomes difficult to forget and forgive in spite of our best intentions.

Right choice of words at right time

Perhaps you would share my view how a wrong choice of words, even with no malice intended, can lead to an extremely unpleasant situation. The same difficulties may arise even if the correct words are used but at the incorrect time or in an inappropriate manner. Even if you try to sincerely tender an apology, it must be done saying the right things in the right manner.

Tone, facial expression

I also realized, remembering some earlier experiences which I had never thought of seriously till now, that quite a lot of those unpleasant things happened because although I was speaking the truth I could not use the right tone that should have gone with it. I could recall an incident during my college days when a classmate seriously misunderstood me as I said something with a false facial expression, which was not really intentional.

The magic of silence

I realized that I have always succeeded in ending an argument which was threatening to turn bitter by just shutting myself off before I became angry. Silence must be an effortless and effective method of putting an end to an argument. During the course of an argument, if you don’t pay heed to what the other person is saying, you only make him /her angrier. I now feel that it is often better to just walk away rather than going the whole hog in proving myself right.

Learn to say “I’m sorry”

The process of self-introspection has provided me with answers to some important questions. For example, it’s better to pick your words carefully and understand their effects if you don’t want to enter into arguments.

If you are facing an angry person, don’t shout in reply but try to give a calm answer. Without retaliating if you are hurt by a trivial comment by someone, try to forget the episode. If the issue is serious and demands that you fight back, say exactly what you should say without making accusations.

Learn to say “I’m sorry” if you make a mistake. When you do it, it can end the fight and result in reconciliation. If you say “I think I am right, but I could be wrong,” the malice goes out of any argument, although you lose a little bit of your inconsequential pride.

I think you would agree to most of the conclusions I’ve reached after giving everything a careful thought. Who wants unnecessary fights in life?