Arranged Marriage Advice?
Baffled asked:
Basically I’m from a culture where arranged marriage (NOT forced marriage) is acceptable, I was born and raised in the US but my morals/values don’t necessarily fall into line with the standard accepted view of things here. I’ve only had one girlfriend, and I didn’t agree with her habits of flirting, staying out late with guys etc, so my parents said they would arrange something, basically I met the girl and she is ridiculously pretty and seems to be really sweet from what I can gather (only have met 2 times so far…lol) but I’m not exactly familiar with certain aspects of what is to come. My main concern is the wedding night, I wouldn’t want to do anything to make her uncomfortable, and I don’t know what she would be expecting? Growing up here I would assume she wouldn’t be too comfortable with sex since we don’t really know each other much, but frankly I’m clueless at this point, any advice from somebody who knows what they are talking about would be much appreciated, thnx
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Basically I’m from a culture where arranged marriage (NOT forced marriage) is acceptable, I was born and raised in the US but my morals/values don’t necessarily fall into line with the standard accepted view of things here. I’ve only had one girlfriend, and I didn’t agree with her habits of flirting, staying out late with guys etc, so my parents said they would arrange something, basically I met the girl and she is ridiculously pretty and seems to be really sweet from what I can gather (only have met 2 times so far…lol) but I’m not exactly familiar with certain aspects of what is to come. My main concern is the wedding night, I wouldn’t want to do anything to make her uncomfortable, and I don’t know what she would be expecting? Growing up here I would assume she wouldn’t be too comfortable with sex since we don’t really know each other much, but frankly I’m clueless at this point, any advice from somebody who knows what they are talking about would be much appreciated, thnx
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Liz said,
December 10, 2008 @ 10:34 am
wow, if you’re both okay with it, just take your time getting to know her and vice versa, allow your self to fall in love with her before anything sexual happens, just because you 2 are arranged and then married, doesn’t mean that you have to do anything sexual with her, when the time is right and she’s comfortable with you and you with her, then that’s when it should happen, arranged or not…
Easy said,
December 10, 2008 @ 1:53 pm
If you marry the girl she is going to expect you to have sex with her on the wedding night. If you don’t then she is going to think you don’t like her and it is going to cause a lot of problems. She is well versed on marriage and the marriage bed so you fulfill your duty as her husband. She is expecting to be your best friend, companion, wife and mother to your children. Give her the respect and love that she diserves.
dont cha said,
December 13, 2008 @ 12:33 pm
dang i wish i could marry you!
jk=)
i think the wedding night you
should try to get to know her more,
maybe make her a light meal
or something
make her contrable around you.
your smart to think
she might not
want to rush to sex without
even really knowing you.
congrats *wink*
Sam said,
December 15, 2008 @ 11:32 pm
Was the girl raised here or abroad?