Should I go through with this marriage? Advice?
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I have spent time with him and he is really funny and clever. His faith and trust in Allah really makes my heart melt but there are things like missing prayers that I am afraid of. I don’t want to be suspicious of another Muslim. Maybe Inshalla I can make him better but I’m just scared cause Im a single mom of three and I keep wondering why would a young man in his mid 20s and a year older than me,and never married wanna take on ALL that responsibility. He keeps saying its Sunnah but im being a scaredy cat.
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I have spent time with him and he is really funny and clever. His faith and trust in Allah really makes my heart melt but there are things like missing prayers that I am afraid of. I don’t want to be suspicious of another Muslim. Maybe Inshalla I can make him better but I’m just scared cause Im a single mom of three and I keep wondering why would a young man in his mid 20s and a year older than me,and never married wanna take on ALL that responsibility. He keeps saying its Sunnah but im being a scaredy cat.
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Free Palestine said,
December 15, 2008 @ 6:39 pm
he sounds like he likes you, why not, pray istikar.
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December 16, 2008 @ 12:17 am
Pray Istikhara
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December 18, 2008 @ 11:24 am
sister…..its always better to go with a divorcee or a single dad if you are a single mom…….even tho islamically speaking theres nothing wrong in a single man gettin married to a divorced/widowed/a lady older to him…….men unfortunately dont have the ‘hearts’ to completely do justice to these kinds of women……most probably….men will end up lookin down on them ( i am not generalizing….there are good ones too …..but not in a good quantity)….so to stay on the safe side….i would not marry this guy if i were you
Alssirata Almustaqim InshAllah said,
December 21, 2008 @ 1:39 am
Istikhara is the best idea. Just be clear with him about his role with your kids.
umhuda said,
December 24, 2008 @ 2:06 am
well is there any reason he would have an ulterior motive? If not, then I suggest you pray istikhara and then decide. I wish you the best inshallah.
Libyan Muslim said,
December 26, 2008 @ 12:14 am
They have all said it to you. Pray Isktikhara.. ; – )
arab_athena said,
December 27, 2008 @ 8:44 am
marriage is one of the hardest things.. especially when you have children involved now…
i would really tell you to do Istikhara prayers… if you are not sure.. let Allah swt decide for you. If this is meant to happen.. it will and Allah will give you when is right and good for you.. if not, Allah Al mighty and most merciful will let no harm be done to you… Inshallah.
good luck.
Only One said,
December 28, 2008 @ 11:56 pm
What is sunna , the 5 prayers are sunna ?!!!!!
I think if he believe in Allah then he is a Muslim , marrying him if you like him and think he is good except for praying , people change , I know many people who weren’t praying then they became regular in praying , keep talking with him about it and don’t give up.