What is the best marriage advice you can give me to make it work?
Gracie asked:
Husband and I get along good but I’d like to know from some married people what there secrets to success are, please advise.
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Husband and I get along good but I’d like to know from some married people what there secrets to success are, please advise.
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babygirlknox30 said,
December 23, 2008 @ 3:11 am
Honest communication is the key to any long lasting relationship
t-bags said,
December 24, 2008 @ 8:39 pm
pray, pray and more prayer….
communicate, communicate and more communication….
be each other best friend
oceanwvs2000 said,
December 28, 2008 @ 3:59 am
communication.
caribbeangal said,
December 29, 2008 @ 10:52 am
Communication
skawp said,
December 31, 2008 @ 11:23 am
Don’t go to bed angry with each other. Keep your arguments to the subject. Never talk about your past before your marriage. Don’t talk about the yesterdays talk about the days to come. Consecrate your marriage at least twice a week, set those days aside for your bonding. Go out at least once a month maybe for a walk, dinner, movie. Never, ever befriend your spouses friends. Last but not least never go to lunch with the opposite sex at work unless accompanied by other co-workers.
isik_9 said,
January 1, 2009 @ 5:14 am
try to get along with your partner.
rkrell said,
January 3, 2009 @ 8:26 am
I think that differs for each couple. Ultimately though I believe a successful marriage comes down to always remembering to not take for granted the little things. Hold hands when ever you can, steal kiss every chance you get, never stop teasing and playing together, and take time to just be together and enjoy being with each other.
igotplayedonce said,
January 6, 2009 @ 7:16 pm
1. Drop all contact with old lovers
2. Be a honest
3. Don’t hold your feelings back good or bad
4. Keep things fresh by sitting down together and come of with new stuff to do together
5. Want to make your relationship closer and more intimate both sexually and non sexually
6. Keep you emotions very closely guarded when working with the opposite sex
7. Be mind full that married or not, you will be hit on
alanpks4 said,
January 8, 2009 @ 3:17 am
Do NOT have children.
Seriouslly children are a huge drain on any marriage.
Be honest. I told my wife early on when we were dating, I will never lie to you unless I’m in the process of getting you a present.
And I never have. We have been together for over 10 years and married for over 6. It just keeps getting better.
If you deciede to have kids, please do so on your own time, don’t let pressure from friends, your parents or his about kids or grandkids influence you.
Take time to live as a couple before you become a family/
Too many people go from being single to getting married and then have kids right away. You don’t get time to be a couple before beocming a family. If you don’t learn to live together for awhile as a couple you as a family are doomed.
Never go to bed angry and aways kiss each other goodnight and goodbye. and continue telling each other that I Love You.
Jackie M said,
January 8, 2009 @ 5:48 am
Make time to play together. It’s to easy to get wrapped up in everyday and before you know it years have passed by. I know it sounds awful but spend time thinking of if you lost each other tomorrow. It keeps things in perspective. Read to each other lists of things you would miss.
Need Help! said,
January 11, 2009 @ 7:10 am
Honesty and communication is sooo important. Marriage takes work. You have to give a little and so does the other person. Little things make life grand. Never go to bed angry, always try to compromise. Flirt with each other. Make passionate love, don’t just have sex. Not that a little hot wild sex every now then hurts.
LuckyEddie said,
January 14, 2009 @ 2:55 pm
Probably to shut-up. It’s hard, but you have to lend a deaf ear and be at least 90% blind or you’ll go absolutely frigging nuts with anybody. Nobody will do things your way, on your time! And, if it has to be your way, on your time, stay single and do it yourself. Don’t be critical, ever, nor act like you’re superior. That’s just NASTY! Just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride…it goes very quickly!!!
bluez said,
January 15, 2009 @ 4:35 am
I’ve only been married for 4 months, so I have no “secrets” yet! lol
But, I will never forget what my brother told me…..”It’s okay to go to bed mad, just make sure you make up in the morning”…..he’s been married for over 8 years….my parents have been married over 40 years and my mom always tells me to choose my battles wisely…..
Seti said,
January 15, 2009 @ 6:14 pm
I think, being realistic about your spouse’s shortcomings helps tremendously; i.e., accepting the bad together with the good, and not expecting a miraculous change simply because you’re now married.
Rebecca C said,
January 17, 2009 @ 3:35 am
Everyone here had pretty good answers…except the “kids will drain your’ marriage” guy. My husband and I have been married for eleven years and are still in love with each other. I think the secret is to Listen. I also pay attention to the small stuff that makes him happy. It wasn’t long before he started looking at the small things that make me feel special. Like bringing me coffee in bed or calling just to say I love you. I also talk to him about everything. I vent on him and he just listens( I did have to explain that I don’t need him to solve my problems)
I also let him know that I trust his judgement and defer certain decisions to him. It makes him feel good. If he screws up, I don’t pick at him over it.
Basically, I treat him the way any man would want to be treated and he treats me well because of it.
Ekimo said,
January 17, 2009 @ 5:45 am
My wife and I have been married for over 11 years now.
For us what works is to – always make an effort for eachother in what ever you do
Talk, talk to each other about everything!
Trust, trust each other with everything too!
My wife is my best friend, my lover, my confidant.
I hope that you and your hubby find eternal happiness with eachother. Good question
phas_1 said,
January 19, 2009 @ 12:11 am
I have been married for 12 years as of the pasted august 2006. Marriage is about him and you…no one else. Don’t listen to the peanut gallery( friends, family) they can hurt a marriage. Most importantly don’t tell the peanut gallery everything…they can really hurt a marriage. Keep your home yours. I tell you this because I learned the hard way. No one wants to see you doing better then them…no matter what it is…love, money even marriage. Talk about everything…make him your best friend and every one else close associates. Even that best girlfriend from elementary school. When you focus on what other people say is the beginning of the end. I have been through it all with my husband and I have heard every reason to leave..
My peanut gallery…wanted me to leave my husband but we made it together and we are happy as if we just met and got married yesterday. We do have arguments but they end up being so stupid that the make up sex is what we look forward to doing. LOL! Marriage is beautiful and you can control what love does to you. But most important put God first. Pray and ask Him to guide your husband and you into marital bliss. Pray that the man He sent you is yours until death do you part. Pray that your husband will be the man he should be and you the woman you should be. Pray for your family …children, dogs cats anything that lives in our home that makes he and you a family. Pray that as a unit you 2 will overcome all that comes your way….Believe in him as a man…husband and as a child of God and he need to believe in you as a woman, wife and a child of God.
I can go on forever about marriage and that it offers because it is God gifted and you must be strong to handle what God gives you. Some people can’t handle the responsiblity of being married…Be God fearing and ask Him for his mercy and grace ….
Mister Cool said,
January 21, 2009 @ 8:42 pm
Faith, Maturity, Trust and above all Tolerance. Unconditional love means for always, not until you make me mad, hurt my feelings, or do something I don’t approve of. Never go to sleep without resolving and augments. be cheerful in the morning. Sometimes you have to forget your pride.Let your partner know what you want your expectations and the role you both expect to play.
Also Respect, Admiration & being sensitive to each others feelings.
Having fun together
Learning to let go of little things so they don’t grow into big nonsense arguments.
Not taking everything so seriously but rather laughing it off
Concentrating on your spouses good qualities and not the bad ones.
Lots & Lots of Love.. which grows more when all of the above are meet.
Firefox1 said,
January 23, 2009 @ 8:24 pm
if you don’t have honesty you haven’t got Jack.
Sometimes you need to switch off the TV and just spend quality time together like going for a walk but then again you both need your own time apart and doing your own things.
If there ever comes a time that you have to carry your mobile phone around the house with you then something is wrong.
Chiprat said,
January 26, 2009 @ 10:33 am
Couples who cook together stay together or kill each other.
You need to have common interest to share and be open and honest.
Trust and giving each other space, and some freedom when needed works great, your a couple and at the same time individual people who need a little space from time to time.
slick said,
January 26, 2009 @ 10:51 pm
Gracie plain and simple we sometimes treat our partners worse than we would treat our friends
So my tip is treat your hubby like what he is your closest and dearest friend . Oh and in the bed room rock his world teee heee
Jane D said,
January 28, 2009 @ 5:02 am
Never go to bed angry at each other . was my grandmother saying . and also always have good communication things can’t be worked on when one person shuts you out or doesn’t want to hear about it.
and always respect each other. And don’t put each other down. life is short have this person be your best friend as well as lover.