Marriage advice? How to have a successful marriage?
Gummibear asked:
I’m just wondering for those who’ve been married for many many years, how did you do it? With divorce rates so high, I would like some advise on how to have a successful marriage when and if I get married. Thank you
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I’m just wondering for those who’ve been married for many many years, how did you do it? With divorce rates so high, I would like some advise on how to have a successful marriage when and if I get married. Thank you
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lovepreschool said,
December 23, 2008 @ 6:53 pm
My dad told me on my wedding day, don’t ever get mad at the same time. That made good sense to me.
We had 3 kids in 4 years. We had no time to argue with each other; too busy trying to survive with no sleep and no energy!
It helps to put your brain in gear before you open your mouth. Use the same rules I have for my preschoolers: be kind, be neat and be safe.
Cheryl Tease said,
December 24, 2008 @ 8:52 am
I haven’t been married for so long, but long term marriages are as much work as new ones. My opinion is that it’s work maintaining a relationship, and learning to accept or tolerate as well as teach and learn from the other. Marriages, or other relationships usually have to be re-invented to stay sharp. Creative efforts by both people help.
It’s way more than just honoring vows, or remaining loyal to one person. Things to share, ideas to consider and explore, knowing the other as well as you know yourself while still allowing that some mystery is a good thing and can lead to discoveries.
Apathy is lethal.
Cheryl
rooney said,
December 26, 2008 @ 5:06 pm
Communicate and trust
Johnny Z said,
December 29, 2008 @ 9:03 am
All marriages are different. What works for one, does nothing for another. It seems good communication, tolerance of the stuff that makes you mad, and how to communicate that without starting a fight is a bit of an art. Then if you do have fights, how to make up and be open to each others wants and needs.
A lot of people expect a lot of love. Most people get married because of love, but there is so much more to a marriage than love, and for that, it will cycle. There will be times when you are hopelessly in love, and other times you will want strangle them.
giftedhands said,
January 1, 2009 @ 3:04 pm
Very good communication and this is where love enyer when you are talking things over.
LUCY said,
January 4, 2009 @ 10:08 am
Listen, understand, & forgiveness. Never never hold a grudge.