Comments on: Husband wants me to be FUNNY! ANY ADVICE?

By: here is an idea

here is an idea — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 16:46:17 +0000

Here is my advice, fart in bed and then laugh.

By: lbrady

lbrady — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 06:57:04 +0000

you start by pretending your just one of his “girl” friends that he can joke with. thats what he wants. problem is your probably not boring, he has just convinced you that you are cuz, its more outgoing with the “girl” friends.
just be more outgoing with him, hard for people to change who they are tho.
Maybe if you find yourself some new “guy” friends, and show him how much fun you have with them. he wont think your quite as “boring” anymore. show him how it feels.

By: bernieszu

bernieszu — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 21:30:08 +0000

I never heard of any marriage vows that said you had to love, honour and amuse! Seriously, though, why do you think you’re boring? Does your husband say that, or does he make you feel that? That’s really not fair, especially if English is not your first language.

Does he want you to be ‘funny’ (do and say things to make him laugh at you, be like a comedian) or does he say that he wants you to be more ‘fun’ (relax and spend time together doing things that are enjoyable and pleasant). There’s a big difference in meaning.

It’s reasonable to want to have fun with your husband or wife, but your husband needs to help you with this. If you’re feeling lonely and insecure, in a foreign country, with a man who makes it clear that he has more fun with other women than with you, then of course you won’t BE any fun because you don’t HAVE any fun.

When you start to have some fun, then you will be more fun, and it’s up to your husband to help you to have fun. And, by the way, anything that you don’t feel happy doing, or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, is NOT fun.

If your husband is a good man he will never try to make you have ‘fun’ doing something that you don’t want to do, or anything that is against your moral or ethical beliefs..

By: Rebecca H

Rebecca H — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 02:33:30 +0000

well it will work out for you i
know it….l you see this is what i would do i would get a book of jokes that are funny to me then tell him the ones you like the most .that is what i would do…

By: Mariposa

Mariposa — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 06:03:28 +0000

Oh honey girl, if you want to change and learn to try new things, just start with little steps. One little thing you never did before, then another, and see what you like.

It’s hard to just be funny if you’re not by nature, and it’s probably not that he really wants you to “be funny,” but he wants to see life, lust for life in you. I think trying new things will help you get your spark back. Good luck to you, girl, and tell him to lay off the girlfriends! It’s probably bad for your marriage.

By: Laura S

Laura S — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:55:14 +0000

He married you- the way you were. Now, he wants you to change. Pack your stuff and move out- then see who’s laughing.

By: Been there done that

Been there done that — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 17:12:02 +0000

New stuff???? Like what???? Food, sports, adventure, sex or cooking????

Sounds like he is too focused on the other women and not on you……seems to me that his female friends are getting in the way of him getting to know you.

He needs to let go of his friends and draw closer to his wife……High School or College is over……No more flirting with the other women……He is married.

By: luvhose00

luvhose00 — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 07:32:04 +0000

Let him know how you feel, if it doesnt work then you do the same. Start talking to guys, and see if that opens his eyes. If it doesnt, then leave him, it hurts but dont continue down this path.

By: hershey

hershey — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 17:34:47 +0000

Yes humor is very important in a relationship or marriage..start conversations with him get to know what makes him laugh, talk more then when you get comfortable more humor will come that is very important, my husband was a little boring but he is much better when sing together on trips he calls leaves messages, we talk nasty to each other so that helps alot you dont want these other women to have your husbands attention. Work on yourself try to find friends where you leave ones you can try to trust. Good luck!

By: First Lady

First Lady — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:32:30 +0000

It is not okay for him to talk to his female friends more than you. This is not your fault and I doubt its because you aren’t funny. Its because your husband is trying to have his cake and eat it too. I say DON’T change. He married you the way you are and if he could handle it then, he can handle it now. If he continues to “talk” to these other women I suggest telling him to kick rocks. Trust me, he isn’t talking to then because you aren’t funny, its for other reasons.