Husband wants me to be FUNNY! ANY ADVICE?
NELP G asked:
Well, I’m boring….My marriage is suffering because of this! I love my husband I don’t want to get divorce. He has friends.(women) He likes to talk with them …better than with me!! I have maybe1 or 2 friends. All my friends are in other country I don’t like to try new stuff. But I want to change. What do I do? How I start?
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Well, I’m boring….My marriage is suffering because of this! I love my husband I don’t want to get divorce. He has friends.(women) He likes to talk with them …better than with me!! I have maybe1 or 2 friends. All my friends are in other country I don’t like to try new stuff. But I want to change. What do I do? How I start?
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fifilapoo114 said,
December 31, 2008 @ 7:19 pm
go to bed in your overcoat until he changes his mind.
campojoe said,
January 2, 2009 @ 9:35 am
Hah! You ARE funny!
He is asking for you to lighten up and be fun. Smile, flirt with him, get him to chase you around the house.
free_angel said,
January 5, 2009 @ 3:06 am
Tell him does he want to hear something real funny? You married him.
naturalhi16 said,
January 6, 2009 @ 7:33 am
Watch comedy central, go to comedy clubs, find out what kind of jokes your husband likes.
zado said,
January 8, 2009 @ 7:47 pm
Take risks and start to try new things. Try out things that neither one of you has done before together.
its_me_vik said,
January 10, 2009 @ 5:38 pm
The best way to be funny is to watch some hilarious movies together ,.. and try to laugh boldly … dont beshy
letterstoheather said,
January 11, 2009 @ 3:54 am
I think we all have our own sense of humor, and our personalities are not apt to change just because someone wants it to. Your husband knew what you were like BEFORE the wedding, and he married you anyway.
I think your husband is grasping at straws, trying to find an OUT, so he’s using this as an excuse.
Your husband is a little nuts.
eightmilechamp said,
January 11, 2009 @ 9:01 pm
Watch some funny movies and get yourself laughing. That’ll help you get in the right mindset to be funnier. Even if you don’t say funnier things to him, he’ll like it when you understand his jokes better and laugh more.
YPT said,
January 14, 2009 @ 3:55 am
he should love you for who you are. he knw u wasnt funny before and it to late to change you. just try to interact with him more. yall will be ok
Back W said,
January 16, 2009 @ 5:07 am
get an Elvira Halloween costume… you dress sexy… plan to have some fun together to get un boring
Daniel L said,
January 17, 2009 @ 7:44 pm
Women inherently are not funny. Don’t even bother trying…you’ll just embarass yourself.
Sorry ladies, but it’s true…when a guy laughs when you’re around it’s just because he’s interested in getting some…you’re not funny.
Andrea V said,
January 20, 2009 @ 12:24 am
LOL. I think you asking is funny. You seem like a good person how to be a funny person is hard. most males accomplish this by being retards. My husband and I always are laughing with each other I dont know why we just enjoy each other and tease the hell out of one another. Maybe he means he wants you to be more fun ? Try going out to am amusement park or watch a funny movie.
Scarecrow said,
January 22, 2009 @ 9:37 am
So does your husband hangout with more women or men friends? I think that is part of your problem. Don’t give him a reason to look outside your home. Take the bull by the horns and ride that SOB.
With that said, did you know your husband before you got married? I mean, he knew what he was getting into right? I don’t think you really need to change for him, he may need to change for you. Maybe if he communicated more with you, you could do stuff together. That’s what I would suggest. Do things together. Try some of the things he likes to do with other women. Just don’t invite any of those women into your bedroom. Unless you are into that kind of thing.
Chuck T said,
January 25, 2009 @ 9:35 pm
you can’t be that bad Sunshine , he would not have married you if that was the case , Buy a couple of jokes books and when you are with other people whip it out and start telling jokes , I’m sure everyone will laugh
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morgan said,
January 25, 2009 @ 10:05 pm
tell him you arent funny, not everyone is. I would find a hobby that you enjoy. Try new things. Dont be afraid to, the worst that happens is you dont like it and move on to something else. Look into sports if you are athletic (or would like to be)…umm just look around, there are alot of different hobbies out there. find one you like.
And FYI: no one is interesting or boring. After you get to know a person, they all get boring. even the initially interesting ones, so just find something you enjoy doing and that should help.
Also, ask him what he would like for you to do to be more interesting/funny.
Amber said,
January 28, 2009 @ 2:42 pm
be sarcastic. if he says he loves you just be like ” who doesn’t?” or if he says you look nice say “i know’” being sarcastic has helped my relationship with my boyfriend.
*Glitterball* said,
January 29, 2009 @ 1:40 am
Hi Hun, it sounds like you dont have much of a life? and need to get out more? im thinking maybe you are not a Brit? why not start a college course for recreation or to study, in order to get a job youre interested in?Your husbands being quite nasty talking to you like this, for a start you dont have to change and become funny, you continue to be yourself, and get out there and grow! Good Luck!
Denise H said,
January 31, 2009 @ 6:07 am
I assume he has told you that you are boring, it sounds like a form of control so that he can have contact with whosoever he likes and puts the blame on your being boring as an excuse to treat you like crap!
Is he that exciting?
Find yourself some new friends in things that you are interested in, and turn the tables on him.
blood4eva69 said,
February 1, 2009 @ 2:37 pm
well you can just read jokes and just re tell them to him. you can both see a funny movie and laugh in the funny parts as well as he does. for the main part change happens in you head and then u act upon it but remember be consistent with you change and don’t give up. hope this helps
dencur02 said,
February 1, 2009 @ 4:56 pm
Get your butt out there and start having some fun!
Blunt said,
February 4, 2009 @ 7:15 pm
Unfortunaly, they don’t sell funny pills, so you have to do some homework.
Being fun is a big part of a relationship. Think outside the box and be adventorous, Lossing up a little. It’s ok to have a a glass of wine, go out and try something different, it’s ok to go to a resturant when you have food in the house and make love somewhere else outside yoru bedroom or you house.
Spice things up by trying diffrent things, go to an amusmet park, a karaoke bar, a novelty store. Do things that you will normally don;t do with yoru partner. Get jokes from the internet and text them to his phone.
Good luck
lisa/alan h said,
February 5, 2009 @ 12:36 pm
Try going out with him and interacting with his friends.You could invite them round for drinks to break the ice.
Janet said,
February 6, 2009 @ 8:49 am
Why do you have to be funny to please your husband? You should please him the way you are. I think you both need to find exactly what is attractive to the other. Maybe you are not funny, but have other qualities that he needs to learn how to appreciate. I personally would ask my husband to cut friendship with other ladies a little bit and try to focus on me for a change. Maybe that’s what’s making you bored. Lack of attention and admiration.
wfhlembo said,
February 7, 2009 @ 3:19 pm
Hey, first of all I should start by saying he should love you for you… you can’t just BE funny – it will seem to – strained. Interesting? well, maybe just read the paper, so you have some stuff to talk about with him. Try new stuff… well, I know you said you don’t like to – but maybe start small. Maybe try a new restaurant for lunch, or go home a different way, and tell him about it. Go into a new store that you never saw… It’s really hard to just change. It’s what you are to be who you are, not someone he wants you to be. Don’t say you’re boring! What are your interests, hobbies… what would you like to do, if you had no boundries? If you had a weekend to yourself, what would you like to do? start from there in finding things interesting to do, and talk about…… good luck! and I’m sure you are a wonderful, interesting person right now!!!
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February 8, 2009 @ 10:38 pm
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yj said,
February 10, 2009 @ 4:57 pm
start out with a new look..maybe with hair or fashion..:) and if u wanna change u got to try new stuff…no new stuff means no change =.=
ndnqt1966 said,
February 11, 2009 @ 5:46 pm
I think everyone has the ability to be funny…some just more than others….watch some comedy shows, go to a comedy show, get a joke book, practice telling jokes….
orcarius said,
February 14, 2009 @ 10:14 pm
Start off with trying to know a little bit about the things that interest him and his work. You do not need to be a pro just enough information so that you can have a good conversation. Ask him questions etc… Men like to show off their knowlege and love to talk about themselves. Ask him about his youth, tenn years and adult life …. Ask him to show you how to do some of the things that he likes to do. Not everything but some things that might be a little fun for you to do with him. Be his buddy too.
Be more fun and the humor will fall in place.
?sesna? said,
February 17, 2009 @ 2:23 pm
make fun of him. FOr some reason my husband loves when I make fun of him. He laughs so hard.
ny said,
February 18, 2009 @ 6:35 pm
Funny – like a clown? I think you should read some books, or maybe get some hobby, then you will have something to talk about. Learn how to talk lightly, to tell about something in 10-12 sentences, so as not to overburden the hearers, but most – learn how to listen.
I bet your husband does not bother a bit about your talking, he wants to hear himself talk. He is just boring and does not know how to start. Read an article or something on something he likes to talk about, retell it to him concisely, and then be ready to listen and exclaim: oh! yes! You are so smart! Wow. Don’t tell me! And you will become funny as well.
Gyan B said,
February 21, 2009 @ 6:34 am
Santa Singh was habitual of drinks. He used to come late in night at home.Her wife tries many things but failed. One of her friend advised her something.Next night when Santa came late as usual.Her wife asked,”Kya Harjinderji hai.”The next day the poor fellow left drinking and returned home in time.Try this one. Even if he does not come on track, u decide yr own track.
specialsuber said,
February 23, 2009 @ 11:28 pm
I have a similar problem. Why aren’t you funny? Stress, kids, responsibility. My husband tells me all the time that I need to lighten up. But it’s hard we have five kids, a home, our own business. Someone has to take it seriously. I think that relaxation has alot to do with it. Try to be spontaneous. I don’t think it’s so much about telling jokes or watching funny movies. I think that it’s more about a feeling inseide yourself. Hard to be funny when you feel weighed down.
spinner said,
February 26, 2009 @ 1:31 am
First, stop being so hard on yourself. I used to be shy in public and then it seems that, over time, I became more confident in myself. I became more outgoing. You just need to find that part of you that you. Just be yourself, whether that’s introvert or extrovert, it’s who you are and no one should have to change who they are. If you’re able to relax and be yourself and not worry about what people may think or how they judge you, you’ll find it easier to be sociable. Worked for me
bettyrubleinspurs said,
February 26, 2009 @ 4:47 am
I would be suspicious of anyone who wants you to be someone you are not. Your husband married you the way you are, what is all of the sudden different that he wants you to be different. I would think that if you changed your personality to fit what he wants, where will it end? Will he then require that you change the color of your hair? Will he want you to wear clothes you are uncomfortable in? This doesn’t make sense. It sounds like you and your husband need to sit down together and figure out what is going on.
sharon d said,
February 27, 2009 @ 8:48 am
well sweetie I really thank that if your husband loves you so much that he needs to except you for who you are no mater what because you are the one he married not his friends and if he cant except that get some counseling are if you go to church meet with your pastor are Friends in the body at church god bless have a good day.
Greg said,
March 1, 2009 @ 9:03 pm
Those “Groucho Marx” glasses with the nose. Put a whoopee cusion under the side of the couch he usually sits on. And then tell him, “Those other women, I hope they put out because I am working on a new comedy act, and I am taking it on the road when it’s finished”.
Thank you. You’ve been a wonderful audience.
LuckyLavs said,
March 3, 2009 @ 4:33 am
Women aren’t very funny by nature. I’m sorry, ladies. Whether it’s from evolution or from intelligent design, when it comes to humor — women are all about being entertained by men, as opposed to entertaining men.
Face it.. Not that many stand up comedians are women. There’s a few, sure. But it is dominated by men.
Why is that? Women don’t need to be funny. They have breasts, hips, and a nice round butt. Men don’t have these beautiful things; so they have had to rely on other mechanisms in order be attractive to women. Like being clever and funny.
Better to find another route than being funny. Try being unpredictable. And less talkative at the same time. your words carry more weight if you don’t say as many of them.
But if you must be funny; watch the comedy channel as much as you can; and you can at least parrot the jokes you’ve heard on TV.
First Lady said,
March 3, 2009 @ 5:32 am
It is not okay for him to talk to his female friends more than you. This is not your fault and I doubt its because you aren’t funny. Its because your husband is trying to have his cake and eat it too. I say DON’T change. He married you the way you are and if he could handle it then, he can handle it now. If he continues to “talk” to these other women I suggest telling him to kick rocks. Trust me, he isn’t talking to then because you aren’t funny, its for other reasons.
hershey said,
March 5, 2009 @ 5:34 pm
Yes humor is very important in a relationship or marriage..start conversations with him get to know what makes him laugh, talk more then when you get comfortable more humor will come that is very important, my husband was a little boring but he is much better when sing together on trips he calls leaves messages, we talk nasty to each other so that helps alot you dont want these other women to have your husbands attention. Work on yourself try to find friends where you leave ones you can try to trust. Good luck!
luvhose00 said,
March 8, 2009 @ 7:32 am
Let him know how you feel, if it doesnt work then you do the same. Start talking to guys, and see if that opens his eyes. If it doesnt, then leave him, it hurts but dont continue down this path.
Been there done that said,
March 9, 2009 @ 5:12 pm
New stuff???? Like what???? Food, sports, adventure, sex or cooking????
Sounds like he is too focused on the other women and not on you……seems to me that his female friends are getting in the way of him getting to know you.
He needs to let go of his friends and draw closer to his wife……High School or College is over……No more flirting with the other women……He is married.
Laura S said,
March 10, 2009 @ 8:55 pm
He married you- the way you were. Now, he wants you to change. Pack your stuff and move out- then see who’s laughing.
Mariposa said,
March 12, 2009 @ 6:03 am
Oh honey girl, if you want to change and learn to try new things, just start with little steps. One little thing you never did before, then another, and see what you like.
It’s hard to just be funny if you’re not by nature, and it’s probably not that he really wants you to “be funny,” but he wants to see life, lust for life in you. I think trying new things will help you get your spark back. Good luck to you, girl, and tell him to lay off the girlfriends! It’s probably bad for your marriage.
Rebecca H said,
March 15, 2009 @ 2:33 am
well it will work out for you i
know it….l you see this is what i would do i would get a book of jokes that are funny to me then tell him the ones you like the most .that is what i would do…
bernieszu said,
March 17, 2009 @ 9:30 pm
I never heard of any marriage vows that said you had to love, honour and amuse! Seriously, though, why do you think you’re boring? Does your husband say that, or does he make you feel that? That’s really not fair, especially if English is not your first language.
Does he want you to be ‘funny’ (do and say things to make him laugh at you, be like a comedian) or does he say that he wants you to be more ‘fun’ (relax and spend time together doing things that are enjoyable and pleasant). There’s a big difference in meaning.
It’s reasonable to want to have fun with your husband or wife, but your husband needs to help you with this. If you’re feeling lonely and insecure, in a foreign country, with a man who makes it clear that he has more fun with other women than with you, then of course you won’t BE any fun because you don’t HAVE any fun.
When you start to have some fun, then you will be more fun, and it’s up to your husband to help you to have fun. And, by the way, anything that you don’t feel happy doing, or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, is NOT fun.
If your husband is a good man he will never try to make you have ‘fun’ doing something that you don’t want to do, or anything that is against your moral or ethical beliefs..
lbrady said,
March 20, 2009 @ 6:57 am
you start by pretending your just one of his “girl” friends that he can joke with. thats what he wants. problem is your probably not boring, he has just convinced you that you are cuz, its more outgoing with the “girl” friends.
just be more outgoing with him, hard for people to change who they are tho.
Maybe if you find yourself some new “guy” friends, and show him how much fun you have with them. he wont think your quite as “boring” anymore. show him how it feels.
here is an idea said,
April 27, 2009 @ 4:46 pm
Here is my advice, fart in bed and then laugh.