If you are married, then you know that sometimes communication seems impossible. The thing is, communication is key in any relationship and is needed to be successful. If you are having a problem in your marriage then you need to look deep down at your communicating skills and everything that goes along with that because usually that is the source. Here are 5 tips to help you communicate better.

1. FEELINGS. In order to best communicate how you are feeling, you must first come to terms with the underlying feelings in each situation. Don’t just look at what your spouse does, but how it makes you feel. You need to really understand why what your spouse is doing is getting under your skin. Many times the roots of the problem lie in your past experiences and therefore your spouse may just be pushing your buttons without meaning to.

2. LISTEN. For some reason, we all can communicate our point of view, but listening to the other person say their peace can be difficult. If you are struggling with listening to each other, than use an object that the person who is talking can hold. If you aren’t holding the object than your role is just to listen. 3. DON’T GET DEFENSIVE. It can be difficult to listen when your spouse says something about your own behavior, but try to put it in the third person. When you are listening to them try to think as if they are talking about someone else, and try to listen not only to the words but to the underlying feelings.

4. SET ASIDE TIME. Many times misunderstandings can get out of control, because there is little or no time set aside to communicate with one another. Take the time on a daily and weekly basis to communicate with each other. Set aside even a 15 minute slot to just go in the bedroom and lock the doors. Setting the rest of the world aside for a few minutes to talk about things that have happened during the day or the feelings that you are experiencing can serve to address issues in advance and solve them before they become an argument.

5. REMEMBER THE LOVE. The basis of marriage is love. In every communication with your spouse, make sure that you are showing them love and respect. This will make for better overall communications and will help you to effectively deal with them and the issues that arise.

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