What if I could tell you a proven 4 step formula to catch a spouse cheating? I’m willing to bet that might have you interested? That’s what I thought. So here’s what I’m gonna do, I’m going to lay out this formula to catch a spouse cheating for you, but I’m going to do so on one condition…

You have to promise me that you’ll make an attempt to catch your spouse cheating with this formula. I don’t want this knowledge to go to waste, so please do me a favor and use it. Is that reasonable? Great, that means we can go ahead and get started. Here’s the first step of the formula…Listen well, because it’s also the most important.

Get emotion out of the equation. That’s right, get your emotion out of this affair…Stop caring.

Why do you think I told you to do that? Why is that so important? Why is this the MOST IMPORTANT step in this formula, and why will it be impossible for you to catch a spouse cheating if you don’t do this? Here’s exactly what will happen if you don’t follow this step:

Your spouse will begin to suspect that you know something, then as you become more emotional and more involved, they will know for sure that you suspect them. Once that happens then guess what?

You stop being in control. Why is that so bad? Because then your spouse confronts you, then you’ll be the one on the spot, then you’ll be the one unprepared. And after the confrontation when you feel awful, there’ll be nothing you can do except wallow in emotional instability and depression.

This is exactly what happened to me, and I would never wish it on anyone else. I spent many nights wishing I could go back and get my heart out of my spouse’s affair, because it would have completely changed everything. So, lesson learned? Stop thinking with your heart, and start using your brain.

Ok, now that that’s out of the way, it’s time for step 2, which is…

Start writing in a diary. Yep, just like a little school girl…Hee hee hee, I’m kidding of course. Really though, you need to start writing. It can be in a sketchbook, it can be on your computer, it can be anywhere, just make sure you can keep track of it, and make sure your spouse won’t find it. I’m sure that you were reading step 1 thinking that it’d be impossible, and you’re right, it’s easier said than done.

By keeping a diary your making it much easier. If you’re feeling emotional, well then go crazy on your diary. You can pretend that your talking to your spouse, or whatever you need to do. The point is that the only thing that should know how upset you are about this affair is your diary. That make sense? OK, good.

Step 3 is to start picking up on signs. This is the step where we begin to work towards actually CATCHING a spouse cheating. Here’s what I recommend you do: Write down anytime your spouse does something that seems like it might be related to an affair.

Alright, here’s an example: Imagine that your wife could suddenly tell you some pretty detailed stats about some baseball player, or maybe she’s very knowledgeable about a team’s record. Well that should be pretty close to a big neon sign saying “Affairs Here”. Or, maybe your husband can suddenly tell you who won the last season of Project Runway or something. BIG NEON SIGN!

Be on the lookout for tip offs like that. I know it’ll seem a bit weird to be so analytical all of a sudden, but do your best. Do you think you get step 3?

OK, step 4: Get the cold hard facts. This is where you want to get rock solid proof of your spouse’s affair so that you can build an iron-clad wall of evidence around them.

Where do you go to find how to do that? Well for the best info on how to catch a spouse cheating, I recommend this site Catch a Spouse Cheating: 3 Simple Steps. It gives you more info than I could here, so take a look.