Maria/Albert V asked:


They say many people never meet that one….I was lucky though cause I met the man of my dreams on November 17,2005. It was a very exciting day January 1, 2007 that was the day we got married ! I thought I am so lucky to have someone like him to spend the rest of my life with ! Everything was going like I imagined, we got our own place, and the married life was good. Everything was going too good though, but I know in real life nothing is perfect. We are having problems right now, financial problems, and it has really affected our relationship. I dont want to be dumb and end up having a divorce. I love my husband, and that day that we said our vows I meant it all and I want to continue living my life with him by my side. My feelings towards him haven’t changed I still love him to death and would do anything for him, Im just scared that ouf financial problem will ruin our marriage. I cant imagine living without him. The problem has gotten so bad that im thinking about moving back in with my parents maybe we just need some time off to think about a solution. Because the longer we stay living together, im afraid we will end up saying something to each other that will make us break up, my husband has said so many things to me that have really hurt my feelings, I understand he’s mad and frustrated about the whole situation. Thats why I think its best if we live seperatly for a while, it will give us some time to think. Sometimes I think maybe its all my fault, I am 4 years younger than him, but I dont think that makes me dumb. He tells me I dont make sense and then he questions why I leave sometimes. How could someone live with a person who’s always calling them immature or stupid. I wonder if he would talk to his ex girlfriends like that too. I don’t want to break up with him that is the last thing on my mind, but i just want him to understand that maybe we need to be away from each other livingwise for a while. I don’t regret marrying him or anything else we’ve been through and accomplished, but I hate the way he talks to me and makes me feel. He finds everything funny like it’s some kind of joke and I dont think our life is a joke but if he feels that way thats probably why things aren’t going so good right now. It seems like we are more comfortable when we are apart, my in-laws have had a lot to do with it too. I dont think he is ready to let go of his parents. I don’t want him to loose touch with them or anything I just want him to put me first since I am his wife. Also i think i may be pregnant. Does anyone have any advice for me?

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The Ladies Man asked:


My wife and I have gone through some rough times lately. She caught me cheating on her, but we worked things through and I felt like it was all behind us. She forgave me for cheating, I forgave her for getting mad.

Now, everytime I have a work related dinner date with a person of the opposite sex, she blows up and gets mad at me. How do I put her mind at ease that it’s just dinner and drinks and no funny business going on?

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sunny/almost asked:


I am having a bridal shower for my soon to be sister-in-law. For one of the games, I have an advice book, everyone will right down their best marriage advice, the bride will be the judge of the advice that’s the best.

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Moon asked:


I’ve pretty much figured out that my marriage is over after 8 years of trying and getting no where. But, I have a unique situation which I don’t know how to resolve and I could use some advice.
I moved overseas to be with my husband and I now live in a foreign country. I have only ONE family member back home who offers me support and would be willing to help me if I needed it.
The problem is my children. They are VERY close to my husband’s family and of course my husband. They are young (6 and 7) but, old enough to know what is going on. They spend time with their grandparents every week and they absolutely love them.
If I divorced my husband, there would be no way that I could stay here. I’d have to go back home. I wouldn’t be able to support myself financially here. And I feel like my children are not getting the best quality of life here anyways.
There is no way that I would leave my children behind. Continued…
I know my husband would grant me custody of the children. Because that is the one of the few redeeming qualities about him, that he is a wonderful father. He would never try to tear his children away from their mother.
But, that is where the rock and hard place comes in. I, as a mother, can NOT tear my children away from their grandparents and the only family that they have ever known.
If I moved back home (which I would HAVE to do if I were to divorce), then it would mean a 12 hour long plane ride to see their father and grandparents. It would have to be a rare occasion, maybe once a year, as I wouldn’t be able to afford much else.
I have thought about sharing the children by letting my husband have them for 3 months during the summer vacation. But, somehow this still doesn’t seem fair to my children. They would be devestated not to have their father or grandparents around every day. And it wouldn’t be like a stone’s throw down the road…it is across a huge ocean!
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In this case, do you think it is wiser to stay in the marriage and stick it out until the children are older? I am afraid of the traumatic effects it would have on my children otherwise.
Do you have any advice or ideas? Thanks!

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Momto2inFL asked:


My best friend asked me to be matron of honor in her wedding back a few months ago. During this time, she sort of had a mini meltdown the day of her wedding and had all these fears rush through her. I told her it was normal to feel this way and be nervous but NOT normal to second guess herself because if this was the man for her, she’d know and not worry about if he was. Well she ended up marrying this man anyways….

Now I talked to her the other night and she was bawling her eyes out talking to me about how she doesn’t know why she married him. She’s basically really unhappy or at least was during our phone conversation. And I just feel for her because I don’t know what to say to her.

How do you advise a friend that’s in this position? I know she loves this man, but isn’t quite in love with him as he is with her. It was more of a “safe” marriage and something culturally that her family accepted. This man is a GREAT guy and he would give her the world if he could, but I always worry that he’ll never be good enough for her no matter what. And I don’t want her to always be miserable or regret what she did.

I know sometimes the best way of being a friend is listening and not talking. But I feel odd having nothing to say about this. Because I’m really speechless. I know we all have moments in marriage because it’s not always going to be peachy and fun. Good times and bad.

Any advice on what I can say to her?? Thanks!!

She doesn’t plan on having children with him. She may be confused in her marriage but she DOES have a good head on her shoulders.
Well, their culture and religion are against living together before marriage. And I have to wonder if this is a piece of the pie also. Living together before marriage doesn’t define marriage in the slightest, but I do think that it could add to her newlywed stresses. She’s not used to having to share space with anyone and the same for him too. Does anyone think this could play a role in their newlywed issues?

These two have been together for over 6 yrs prior to their wedding.

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pgd asked:


Isn’t this asking advice from unqualified people?
Why do Christians (aka the Protestants) allow married ministers to give marital advice to other Christians (aka Protestants)?
Often there are special programs on Valentine’s Day featuring married Christian ministers (one man to one woman with children).

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his wife asked:


I”m getting married this coming Monday I know that I love this man with all my heart and have wanted to marry him since I was 17, we are 27 now. This is my first marriage and his second, no I didn’t break up his first one, his wife decided she wanted to be a lesbian..

Anyway I was wondering if you guys had any advice for a long happy marriage.

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Heather G asked:


I am a 27 year old women ,I am getting married for my first time .
what advice do i need to know being a first timer. i believe in marriage . love and making it work the hard way. its funny not very long ago i really did not believe in nothing . now i ment jay my world has turned upside down. i am in love !!!! wow is a wonderful thing . he is such a really great guy. when we went is was like love at first sight . in my life its funny how things work out. we made a choice together not to have childern , is our marriage going to be easer or harder without childern ? i have lots of question . but, i think i just want to know ,what changes ? besides your last name.

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Mare asked:


My friend has come to me because I am in a happy marriage of 5 years and she has been married for 2 1/2 and now says she is not in love with her husband but she has a 3 year old with him and will not leave him. I don’t want to break up her marriage with my advice. Every marriage is different. What should I tell her? Thanks.

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sweetcheeks asked:


I’m going through a complicated divorce (married 17yrs, & still love him) need experienced advice/blog support from those (30+) who’ve been there-done that.
I’m an emotional and financial wreck (in Michigan).
He has parkinsons and says he still loves me and the kids but lost his job, caused me to loose mine, he has moved into another residence with an 80 yr old woman and her 55 yr old daughter. He has filed, we are getting a divorce.

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